32 years old and honestly terrified of waiting until 65 to finally “live”...what investments exist besides just 401k/IRA?

I’m 32 and having a bit of an existential crisis about retirement planning.

Everyone always says:
“Max your 401k.”
“Max your Roth IRA.”
“Wait 30 years.”

But what if I genuinely do not want my entire financial life optimized around finally being free at 65? I know people always going on nice vacations traveling the world, always eating out at nice places not just "scrambling" by and living comfortably and happily....and they're only 40 years old.

I might not even be alive by 65. And even if I am, I don’t want my healthiest years to just be nonstop working while waiting for some magical retirement age.

So I’m trying to understand is, what are realistic investment paths for someone who wants the OPTION to retire earlier? Not necessarily at 40 with Lambos but maybe having enough freedom by 45-50 to not be trapped by work.

The problem is every “retire early” conversation online either turns into some absurdly risky gambling/speculation or people making $400k salaries in tech.

Is there actually a middle ground?

I’m not looking for get rich quick advice. I'm looking for real perspectives from people further ahead in life because right now the idea of grinding until traditional retirement age feels extremely depressing to me.