I have accumulated a relatively large portfolio but I have been living a relatively humble life.
Every move in the market has the implication of losing/gaining tens of thousands of dollars. In my mind, I convert those to months of living expense, months of income, or discretionary spending that I always wanted.
So I am so scared of making moves like rebalancing or diversifying a certain position that grew too big over time, so I keep delaying them but they just become a bigger problem over time.
How to overcome the stress? Am I just too focused on gain and loss?